Who We Are
Who We Aren’t
Who You Are
We are a community of men working together to redefine what it means to be a man. We understand the loneliness that can result from societal expectations of manhood.
We're building connections with each other, nature, and our roots, transforming our lives in the process.
Questioning Masculinity: We challenge existing ideas of masculinity through inclusivity and understanding.
Acknowledging Suffering: We recognize the harm that we have witnessed or caused and commit to positive changes.
Fighting Isolation: We address the loneliness that can result from outdated views of manhood.
Creating Connections: We build relationships with each other and prioritize our shared history.
Enhancing Lives: We focus on practical ways to improve our own lives and the lives of others.
Defining Manhood: We work together to redefine what it means to be a man.
We have a strict "no asshole" policy. We aren't arrogant or indifferent. We don't claim to have all the answers or disrespect others.
Our mission is to genuinely connect and grow together, treating each other with empathy and humility.
Not Experts: We don't pretend to be all-knowing or have solutions to all personal challenges.
Not Fixers: We don't offer instant solutions or shortcuts for personal growth.
Not Unkind: We approach others with compassion, understanding, and empathy.
Not Forcing Beliefs: We don't impose our beliefs or methods but encourage exploration and development.
Not Acting Like Know-It-Alls: We don't pretend to be perfect; we believe in ongoing learning.
Not Disrespectful: We engage with one another with respect and appreciation.
You believe in commitment as the foundation of a community. Challenge yourself to find your place in our community.
Whether you're looking for connection, dealing with emotions, or personal growth, you are welcome at The Fireplace.
Open to Connection: You appreciate deep and lasting relationships.
Searching for Purpose: You wish to be part of something meaningful.
Accountable: You acknowledge being both a victim and a perpetrator.
Embracing Honesty: You act authentically with others, whether seeking or struggling.
Pursuing Growth Together: You recognize that growth occurs collectively, and your experiences can help others.
Seeking Understanding: You strive for authenticity and a deeper understanding of yourself and others.
Our Creed
We are a Community of Men United for Growth, Understanding, and Connection.
Acceptance for All: We welcome all men, supporting each other on our individual paths.
Focus on Well-Being: We strive for physical, mental, and spiritual well-being, challenging ourselves, each other, and societal norms.
Rejecting False Ideas: We emphasize the interconnectedness of everything without relying on false concepts of masculinity.
Welcome Everyone: This space is for anyone longing for connection, support, and growth.
Value the Whole Person: We encourage clear thinking, physical appreciation, and deep connection with others.
Encourage Self-Discovery: We support each member's growth and personal transformation.
Reshaping Manhood: We aim to shape a new understanding of masculinity through kindness, service, and growth.
Building a Safe Space: We foster an environment for transformation and connection.
We are more than just a community; we are a movement for positive change, replacing isolation with deep connection.
We welcome you to The Fireplace, a place where we work together to redefine masculinity for a world in need of real men.
membership
The Fireplace provides monthly in-person and online men's groups centered on personal growth and emotional well-being.
Join us in Santa Monica, CA or online for supportive and empathetic discussions that challenge outdated views of manhood.